What seduction coaches don’t tell you is that all infield is a compilation of the best of the best. They have mostly highlighted their strengths and hidden their weaknesses. For example, take a look at my video.
This video only shows less than 1% of the few nights I have been out. How much recording was that? Let’s approximate it to 12 hours (3 nights of non-stop recording) which means 720 minutes.
The video is 3 minutes long, meaning that 3/720 = 0.0042.
This means that this video only shows 0.42% of what my actual skillset looks like. In the case in which you were wondering how in the world you could do that, well that’s how I do it. I just film a lot, then only select the very best.
HOW DID I DO IT?
- I highlight my strengths. I am good at approaching girls in high-energy environments, most notably music festivals. I’m good at going direct, and that’s the only style that I show in my videos.
- I avoid showing what I’m less good at. The reason why I never add the conversations in my videos is that, well… verbals are my weakness.
- I cut away all the fluff and irrelevant footage. That is the reality of infield footage or in fact any video you will see on the internet. While all the in-between conversation between point A to point B is important, I do not show it because the point of the video is to show how “good” I am. In this case, it was just for art.
- I film for several hours. I do so because if I only filmed for a short amount, I might have ended up with not enough content.
Here you have it. This is the truth about infield footage that no other so-called PUA coach will tell you. Remember that I am not a guru. I’m an individual just like you, and anything I do you can do it too. You just gotta put in the effort, that’s all.
The more I progress on my path towards self-development, the more that my identity is shifting. The reason for impostor syndrome – or feeling like a fraud – comes from homeostasis. It is a natural phenomenon that acts as a sure way to guarantee safety and security. What has worked in the past kept me alive for all those years, so why bother to change? Why should I expand my comfort zone if all of it is unnecessary for survival?
I only see one way out of impostor syndrome, and it’s to go through it. I realize that one of the most uncomfortable things to do is to expand one’s identity. I am no longer the “shy introvert” from 5-10 years ago. I am a YouTuber, entrepreneur, and self-published (soon) writer. Simply writing those words make me uncomfortable, but that is now my new reality and I will live up to that standard no matter what.
Starting this website was the first step towards turning pro. Though, this is only step one. Soon after I plan to start 1-on-1 online coaching, doing online courses and writing some more. Marketing is the hardest, overlooked part of most artists and creators who just want their ideas to magically land on their audience’s lap. They do things for free or for very cheap indefinitely in fear of ruffling a few feathers and going “commercial”. Their disdain for success and fame is only a projection of their deepest fear: the fear of success.
There are plenty of brilliant, talented individuals who have never made it because they refused to turn pro. They refused to face reality. Their excuses were that they didn’t want to “sell out”. They reinforce their pride as non-conformists by refusing to accept the reality of the market for what it truly is. The reality is that making it as a creator is hard. Really hard.
On this note, I invite you to do the same. Don’t just follow your dreams. Create your own reality. Bend reality to your will by any means necessary.
Escaping “negative” emotions by doing other distracting things does not really help. Hence, I have made it a practice to meditate everyday whenever sadness, anger, loneliness, anxiety, or any other paralyzing emotion is present. When I isolate myself for a little too long I sometimes tend to attract those unwanted emotions. Whenever this happens, I sit down to calm down my mind and recenter my breath.
I am sure you’ve been there too. Here’s a video I’ve done on the topic a long time ago. I often have to remind myself of the very things I teach and apply them myself. Meditation takes a very long time to master, and I plan on mastering it eventually.